ONCE, A QUESTION FOUND ME…
If you could do anything with this brief, wondrous life, what would you do—and who would you be while doing it?
The answer came easily to me. I’d collect passport stamps, stolen kisses, and conversations that linger long after the last glass of something old is poured. I’d build a life shaped by curiosity, pleasure, movement, beauty, and becoming more fully myself.
These days, I sit comfortably in duality: half librarian, half libertine. My South African vibrancy is wrapped in Midwestern warmth, with some NYC grit for good measure. Curious and cultivated, with a well-intact sense of play, I tend to measure life in playlists, books, films, and seasons. I’m bisexual, endlessly curious, and drawn to chemistry in all its forms.
My life moves with intention: strenuous pilates and yoga classes, unpacking somewhere new, music in the kitchen, farmer’s market trips for fresh flowers, evenings that unfold without rushing toward the next thing. I certainly love a NYC evening out at a Michelin restaurant and luxe lounge that doesn’t take reservations. But I’m just as likely to dance barefoot while dinner’s simmering, singing into my wooden spoon as a microphone.
We spend so much of modern life staring at screens, answering messages, performing competence, ambition, or success without asking whether we still feel connected to ourselves underneath it all.
I don’t believe rest should be earned, though if anyone’s earned it, I suspect you have.
Time with me is rarely about doing the most. Usually, it’s about feeling a little more like yourself again. And rolling out that dusty bucketlist.
Let’s move beyond artifice and settle into connection. Can you imagine: sharing glances across the table, as your hand grazes my knee out of view. Having tangled conversations that stretch in the twilight, before I pull you in for a deep kiss. Waking up with me in your arms, my scent filling your senses. Planning that dream trip with me, knowing your partner in adventure is just as excited. Because chemistry is what makes time feel pleasantly irrelevant for a little while…
Life is for living; let’s do it well.
drawn to
pink grapefruit, fresh oysters
the perfect burger
books you finish in one sitting
music with layered harmonies
learning greetings in new languages
the colors olive green + tomato red
ranch dressing, unfortunately
lately I’m loving
watching: Hot Ones, Paradise, Outlander
reading: All Fours, The Scarlet Pimpernel, whatever followed me home from the bookstore
forever favorites: Game of Thrones, Stevie Wonder’s discography, hearing the ocean from the beach